I\'m Summer, a mouthy, sarcastic bitch. I\'m passionate about natural birth, long term breastfeeding, and living naturally. I curse too much, love tattoos, and will some day be crushed to death by my book collection. I homeschool, dream of gardening, and swing to the left. 
An Open Letter To My Daughter
Dear Saffron
Someday you will be a teenager. And when that day comes you may start to have feelings for other teens. The way they smell, the way the smile, the way they laugh. All of these things might start to make you feel like smiling and giggling and blushing. And if, heaven help you, you are like your mother you might start to get the idea that you need a certain special someone. That this other person “completes” you. That the affection of this other person gives you worth.
And when that day comes, I want to say no.
No.
No.
You don’t need to wait on anyone else to complete you. You don’t need to sink into nothingness if that someone leaves. You don’t need to do or be anything for anyone else but yourself. You don’t need to wait for someone else to come in and save you.
You, are beautiful. Even if your skin is oily and your hair is frizzy and your teeth are crooked. You are beautiful. You are whole, complete, one. Live for yourself, enjoy your life, make up your own mind, find your own happiness.
Loves will come and go. Lovers will come and go. There is no white knight on a stallion, or sparkling vampire in a Volvo. And even if there were, you don’t need them. All you need is to look in the mirror and know that you are beautiful.
Yes, yes, yes! Wonderful post Summer. So far my kids seem to love themselves and have all of the confidence in the world. I hope they can bottle up enough of it now to carry them through their teen years. If not, I hope to be around to remind them of this important message.
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Great post! That is exactly what our daughters need to hear. Beautiful!
This? Is one of my biggest fears when I consider parenting a teenage daughter. My 4-year-old had ‘boy trouble’ at preschool last year, and I died a little inside. Not because it changed her so much, because it didn’t yet. But because I saw how it could.
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I should also add…in addition to not needing a boy to complete here, she also doesn’t need that “heroin” mentioned in the second image.
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I should just print that out and give it to my daughter when she is older. I don’t know what I will do if she feels she needs a boy to complete her. I am hoping I can convince her otherwise.
A thousand times “ditto”. My own pre-teen girls have read the books, seen the first movie. They’re not impressed . We watched Twilight together when it came out on DVD & I wish i had recorded the running commentary from the twins. There’s this scene where Edward is telling Bella how dangerous he is,blah blah blah and Bella says she doesn’t care. One of my daughters was screaming at the TV: “Some guy tells you he could kill you & you say that’s OK??? Are you a freakin’ moron!?”
Ah,i love my girls
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Wow. I don’t have kids but it applies to a friend of mine. 34 years-old and she’s still waiting for a prince. When she meets a guy she romanticizes the relationship to death and concentrates on values and details that do not matter in a relationship instead of waiting to fall for someone who offers respect, friendship, tenderness, laughter and who really likes her for who she is on her own. I wish her mother had said what you plan to say to your daughter one day.
Loved your post !
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Very well said. This is such an important message for teenage girls and women alike. Definitely something that I hope to instill in my daughter.
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My gosh, this is excellent. No one ever said this me when I was growing up, especially when I hit Jr High/High school and needed to hear it most, no one said anything like this to me.
If only, maybe I would have known that I didn’t need to get married at 18… but then again, I had very religious parents who truly felt that me getting married at 18, a naive virgin, was a great idea. It was God’s Will. To them, I wasn’t complete without a mate.
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That was well-written and beautiful!
Even though I haven’t put it to words as wonderfully as you have – YES! My heart agrees with you in every way here. Yes, yes, yes.
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