Boys for me, please
Posted on | August 28, 2007 |
Category: life
Tags: kids > life
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I always wanted a girl. I admit it, the thought of a daughter that I could share moments with woman to woman seems like a dream. I imagine long talks about the kind of things only us women could get.
And then the universe reminds me of why I have sons.
E is doing gymnastics. he’s the only boy in his class, but at this age they don’t even care. He’s having a blast, his cousin is in the class with him which makes them partners in crime. The poor teacher, I almost feel sorry for her. Today I was waiting to get the forms I still hadn’t filled out, and while I waited I check out the trophy case. And I shuddered. At the top was a huge photo of a squad of little girls, no older than 7 or 8, wearing make-up that resembled somethign a “lady of the night” would prefer. Bright red lips and cheeks, thick eyeliner, sparkly eye shadow up to their brows. And that’s just the make up. Here are little girls with nothing to show off and no clue what they should be showing off anywhere, yet I’ve seen strippers covering more of thier bodies. Tiny little skirts that you can see the “shorts” (they looked more like panties to me) sticking out and tiny shirts made to cover what would be breasts. In another 8 or 9 years!
After E’s gymnastics class the next class came in. This was the tumblers/pre-cheerleaders, girls aged 4-6. In short shorts with half their butts hanging out and tiny red tank tops letting it all hang out, not that there was anythign to ahng out anyway.
Why do little girls need to be so over sexualized? Why are mothers painting their innocent daughters up like hookers just to do cheers? These are little girls! The Dallas Cheerleaders look modest compared to what these girls are required to wear.
I’m so disgusted that I can’t even think straight. Right now E’s group can wear whatever they want as long as it’s comfortable. But next year he would be moved into the hang naked league. Sure he’s actually get to wear clothes, ut what would I be teaching him about the female body if I let him continue? What would he take out of it, seeing little girls half dressed shaking their butts? I can’t even imagine what kind of women these girls will grow into be.
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August 28th, 2007 @ 4:11 am
Yeah I am not so sad that I have only boys right now. If I have a girl I am going to have to be hyper vigilant about the kinds of clothing they wear. It starts when they are babies.
August 28th, 2007 @ 4:41 am
Which is exactly why my daughter did one year of cheerleading and then mean ol’ mom yanked her outta there after my protests went unheard…no…laughed at. At 43, I guess I am now officially a fuddy-duddy. So be it.
August 29th, 2007 @ 6:12 am
Yea.. This made me sad
My girls wear dresses that go AT LEAST to their knees. and shorts have to be a certain length too. And shirts are generally tshirts or at least the thick strapped tanks.
*sigh*
August 29th, 2007 @ 4:15 pm
From what you’ve described it sounds incredibly over the top for little girls. There poor skin being covered in make-up at that age. I don’t think I would feel comfortable letting my little one go anywhere dressed like that.
But having said that, I don’t think that they are going to turn out any different from everyone else just cause they dressed like that for a few years when they were too young to really know what it was all about anyway.
August 29th, 2007 @ 4:28 pm
Farmer’s Wife- I disagree. They may be too young to understand fully, but we are not. And they are not to young to understand the way the adults treat them, talk to them, and praise them. When we dress them like mini-hookers and praise them now for looking that way what message is that sending them? How will that influence how they feel about themselves, their bodies, other girls?
And it doesn’t last for a few years. The local gymnastics group goes all the way to high school, and those girls show up looking the same way that the younger girls look. Half dressed and loaded with make-up.
Sexualizing little girls now and reinforcing the idea that sexy=good now when they are developing personalities and ideas will most certainly carry over into their adulthood. Those are the kind of girls who grow up to join myfreeboobs.com.
September 4th, 2007 @ 1:14 am
I completely agree with you. I have a daughter, and it was horrible when she went from size 4T to size 4. The clothes for “little girls” were awful!
Last year she went from a size 6x to 7, and the clothes for “big girls” are even worse! It’s getting harder and harder to find modest clothing for her, and it makes me really sad. I just want her to be a little girl, not some barely clothed teeny-bopper.
September 13th, 2007 @ 6:12 pm
I think this just underscores how hard it is to be parents of *both* genders. With boys, we not only have to raise the kinds of sons we want to raise, but we also have to guard that society doesn’t teach them, by the sort of examples you mentioned, that women are objects. The fact that women/girls are being treated as objects makes it hard for parents of both genders.
And yes, I agree, that sexualizing young girls has long-lasting consequences.
September 16th, 2007 @ 2:23 pm
yeah but sadly i think there thinken like the school system does train them now for wat lies ahead. which to me is stupid like u said these are little girls who don’t even fully understand or know there body yet.. and i hate to say these for now ur little one will be safe but when he riches that fablous age were he does notice um one word jason and pat^_^ oop that 3 words
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July 7th, 2008 @ 5:32 pm
Although I get what you’re saying, I have to disagree. The make-up during a recital is so that you can see the girls (and boys) faces. When one is on stage the lights & the distance make it impossible to see the expressions & features of the actors/performers faces.