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Parenting With A Broken Heart
Last night Evan went to stay the night with his cousins. Then he stayed the day playing with his cousins, not coming home until after dinner in fact. When he finally came home I was ready to hug him and kiss him and tell him how much I missed him.
The feeling wasn’t mutual.
Instead I got an hour of being told that he doesn’t want to live here anymore, he doesn’t want me for a mom anymore, he doesn’t love me anymore, I’m never allowed to hug or kiss him again, on and on. The sad thing is how that’s to be expected. Anytime he sleeps over somewhere he comes back ready to disown me. First thing in the morning and right after a nap he hates me.
I keep telling myself that it’s just a new phase, that he’s pushing buttons, that he’s expressing that he missed me in his own way, that he really doesn’t mean any of it, that he’s trying to find ways to express his emotions. But it still hurts. It hurts a lot. Like a knife right into my heart.
You know, I was prepared to be the evil mom that he hated when he became a teenager. I expected the crazy teenage hormones to make him piece every inch of his face, dye his hair green, and roll his eyes at what a loser mom is while hiding in his room looking up natural acne treatments online. I remember my teen years, I could handle that backlash. What I never expected was this to come out now. He’s still practically my baby, and he can break my heart faster than anyone else could.
According to Dr. Robyn
Perhaps the most important thing for you to keep in mind while all this is happening is that your child doesn’t really hate you. So take a deep breath. Sometimes parents, too, need to remember to smell the flowers and blow away the clouds. After all, it’s likely that clear skies are on the horizon. (link)
Huh. Easier said than done.
[tags]parenting, kids, life, anger, hate[/tags]
had some time to snoop threw blog world and sow u are feeling down. HAd to stop and offer a hug. My Devon went threw this at the end of his threes. It was very hard. You have a good head on your sholders, just remined your big heart he dosn’t meen it.
Oh we are missing u at CTT. The girls are al thinking of u.
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Was preparing to be all sympathetic, until I saw the pic!
I laughed out loud.
Classic Evan!!!!!
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My son went through this phase when he started staying at other’s people houses. It broke my heart the first time and then made me so angry that I wanted him to go live with them too! Don’t worry though cause it passed and now I get the hugs when he comes home. Hang in there!!! I know it sucks.
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When my son went through this, it was especially hard to handle because where he was going was his dad’s and he heard nothing but venomous comments about me then. At three he was calling me a stupid b**ch and all sorts of things.
I would punish him for foul language and tell him that treating me like that made me not like him very much. At that age for him rewards were everything and he lived for his weekly trip to pick out a hot wheel. I was able to tie it in with his reward system and broke him of it pretty quickly.
He’ll be 11 this year though, so the teenage angst is scarily on the horizon…
Got the heads up on your blog from Lil Mom That Could – great stuff here!
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That’s so sad! The only thing I can think of is that things never stay the same with kids. What’s so different about sleeping over at someone else’s? New toys? Different kids/people to play with?
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That is rough. Have you asked him if there is something in particular he likes about the other homes that perhaps you can try to duplicate? My brother used to do this when we visited our step-mom because she had a lot more time to sit and listen to him talk. It’s probably a phase but perhaps you can do something to make it pass a little more smoothly.
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It is tough the 1st few times you hear it, but it does phase out. And soon they’ll be tweens/teens and you’ll be trying to give them away!! LOL Just kidding…
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Oh, those moments suck. I was stunned to see how early my 6 year old knew to start throwing such things around. His big thing was (he hasn’t said this for at least a year) to say he wanted to go live at his daddy’s house. I’d have to stay calm so he didn’t see how much that one bothered me, but it was maddening b/c his dad was/is such a slacker who could NEVER get a job and have his own place let alone also take care of a kid. Inside I was screaming, Your dad’s a LOSER and doesn’t even have a studio apartment! But of course you don’t say such things.
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