I\'m Summer, a mouthy, sarcastic bitch. I\'m passionate about natural birth, long term breastfeeding, and living naturally. I curse too much, love tattoos, and will some day be crushed to death by my book collection. I homeschool, dream of gardening, and swing to the left. 
Sex And The End of Pregnancy
At the end of my first pregnancy my midwife was far more interested in my sex life than I was. She was insistant that Dearest and I needed to be getting our groove on at least every other day. I think she almost more concerned about how many orgasms I was having than how much water I was drinking. She constantly pressed there were three good reasons for lots of sex at the end:
- To help bring on labor
- To relieve stress
- To keep up connected before the insanity of a new baby
Unlike Christine who brags about getting it on every day with her hubs, I’m so not interested in sex. I wasn’t with my first, I wasn’t with my second, and I’m not now. My sex drive likes to take nine month vacations every couple of years. It comes back in full force, as evidenced by the getting knocked up again every couple years. But once all these pregnancy hormones start flowing my libido packs it up and heads to the beach the next few months.
I keep thinking about my former midwife as I get closer and closer to the last few days. I’m still not at all interested in sex, and based on how my hips are hurting these last few weeks I’m doubting it would even be fun. But I have to admit that the prospect of bringing on labor is pretty tempting. To hell with love and passion, I don’t need flowers and jewelry. I just want to use Dearest’s body to get this pregnancy done.
Not that he minds at all. When I suggested it his eyes lit up like a kid in a candy store. Yeah, it’s been a few months. And he’s been so patient and understanding about it all.
Or he’s got a girlfriend on the side.
At this point I’d be totally OK with an extra girlfriend as long as she pulled her weight with the dishes and the laundry. And if she likes kids too that’s a double bonus.
Much to Dearest’s joy the heart burn and the water retention and the false labor has finally pushed me to the “I don’t want to be pregnant anymore!” point. Which means sex. Sure I’m just using his body for my own selfish gains, but it makes him happy.
My midwife would have been so proud.
Sex is the last thing on my mind at the moment. I feel so huge and awkward and like you my hips are killing me.
yea my libido goes on a year hiatus… poor hubby.. it is 5 months before baby is born and then 6 months after. Luckily we have been married for 15 years!
mojavi at simple things\´s last blog post..week 2… here we go
I remember forcing the sex in those last weeks of pregnancy, kinda’ like how you force down straight Nyquil. It is HORRIBLE, but you know it’s going to help.
Michael would have to really enjoy it, knowing that nursing just shot the libido even further for me. It was his oasis in the really big desert.
Christine\´s last blog post.."Til that happens …"
Good luck!
Heh. Worked for me. Heh. (That’s my secret I’ve never told anyone for the day…)
Goddess in Progress\´s last blog post..New Loot
Girl,
I was more like Christine than you. My [medical] midwife for my second child also regularly pushed it. But she didn’t need to. After daddy was done massaging out my sciatic problems with belly oil, I was more than happy to put a deposit in the sex bank, considering we wouldn’t be able to make love for 6 weeks after the birth. (5 for us; we couldn’t wait.)
I guess the threat of no lovin’ was enough for me to find a way that was comfortable for both of us!
Cate\´s last blog post..Wishing for BlogHer ‘09
sex keeps our hoo hoo clean and mushy close to our partner and oxytocin abounds helping baby to feel loved and secure and as i always say whats good for baby is good for mom and family
Hi Summer,
I’m ready for labor and and if making love does the trick let’s do this already!!! I don’t think it’s selfish at all. I told my hubs that we had to do it every day this week. I’m due on Saturday- plus that extra prostagladin helps! Let’s get this baby rockin’- LOL!
Thanks for linking up to my site. I’m so ready to have this baby! What’s funny is I feel the same way about the S-E-X issue as you- bring it on baby
Leslie- La Mama Naturale’\´s last blog post..Eggscellent!
hehehehehe oh Summer. *hugs*