I\'m Summer, a mouthy, sarcastic bitch. I\'m passionate about natural birth, long term breastfeeding, and living naturally. I curse too much, love tattoos, and will some day be crushed to death by my book collection. I homeschool, dream of gardening, and swing to the left. 
Some Days I Just Scream
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A 12 year old girl was raped in the hallway of her school by a 14 year old. Two other students walked up in time, one stopped the rape while the other ran to find a teacher. Sounds bad enough, right?
But then, THEN, one of the school supervisors spoke out and said it wasn’t really rape because the girl didn’t scream. Really? yep. It’s only rape if you scream. If you’re scared, or ashamed, or just a 12 year old girl hoping it ends soon and don’t make a sound, well you must have really wanted it.
And really, I can’t think of a good reason why she wouldn’t scream. I mean, its not like a few weeks ago a girl was gang raped outside the school dance while a crowd gathered to watch and some joined in. No, that would never make a girl pray that if she’s quiet enough it will be over soon and no one will show up to join in. Not at all.
And no, I don’t want any comments about “teaching girls to avoid rape”. It’s not like rapists are just lying around and girls trip and fall on them. We should be teaching boys not to rape. Because guess what, if they stop raping girls then girls won’t be raped anymore. Amazing.
“We should be teaching boys not to rape.”
Oh dear Lord YES. We *still* have boys being raised that no does not mean no, it means maybe, it means she’s playing hard to get, it means you can do whatever you like anyway…
We have one son, and we always ALWAYS made a point to come down hard on him when one of his sisters said no or stop in the middle of even innocent play. Too harsh? Oh hell no.
Teaching my boys not to rape has started from the cradle. When someone says no, stop, don’t do that, it means NO. STOP. DON’T DO THAT. It is a basic matter of respect for others. But 99% of the kids we interact with were never taught this. Jameson will scream, “No! Stop it!” during playtime, and they just keep doing whatever it is, sometimes even laughing. These are the rapists of tomorrow.
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Summer Reply:
December 17th, 2009 at 10:25 am
Exactly! And mimicking that by stopping when our kids tells us to stop. When they see it works both ways I think it makes a huge impact.
You guys are on point. These boy rapists are getting younger and younger, too. These values are definitely being left out at home. How I’d love to interview their mothers.
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Summer Reply:
December 17th, 2009 at 11:29 am
And fathers. It’s not just the mom’s job alone to teach values. Though in a culture that protects the rapist as much as our’s does, it is going to take the entire family.
Yes, that too. We love to wrestle, tickle, and horse aroumd, but when they say stop, we stop.
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Jill Reply:
December 17th, 2009 at 1:39 pm
Oops, hit the wrong reply button.
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One told me that rape is on the increase, I however think it’s because it’s aloud to be talked about. That and the definition of rape expanded. This definition of rape not being rape because she didn’t scream is the most disgusting thing in the world besides the act itself!
In a way I am somewhat thankful for those who are ignorant on this subject because that means they were never touched by a dirty hand, in another I am livid on how our world is so cold and unsympathetic.
I am fearful for our children’s future if this is what is being done in, what is supposed to be a safe place.
I also agree with teaching children personal space and listening to NO! I am on DH all the time for this. We teach our children that it’s their body and there are places that should not be touched, then we continue to tickle and play around even after the child says STOP!
I really think authority figures sometimes say stupid things and the only difference between them and everyone else is that they get caught. I can only hope the school supervisor was so shocked that they said something they didn’t mean!!!
Speaking of teaching boys not to rape:
http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2009/12/06/i-got-yer-rape-prevention-email-forward-right-here/
Summer Reply:
December 20th, 2009 at 10:16 am
I’ve read that before and I love it! But I love everything Twisty says.