Toy Free Christmas

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The closer the holiday season comes the more dread I feel about it. I look at the toys advertised in the stores and in the newspaper inserts and it only makes me grumpier. My kids don’t need more toys. Trust me, they’ve got a never clean room to prove that point. Even with donating a huge box of not played with things they still have more than any two kids could need.

I’m putting my foot down. We’re having a Toy Free Christmas/Yule.

Now before you think I’m a totally heartless mom, I’m not denying them everything. Right now I’ve got a few knitted goodies ready or close to it for them. Scarves and hats that I made myself. And there are a couple things that we already bought, the always needed coloring books and some simply crafty supplies that we love. But beyond that, we’re sticking with the necessities.

I’ve been explaining to the boys how there are kids with no toys, almost no food, no warm beds to sleep in. I want them, Evan mainly, to understand that the less we take the more there is available for others. If we get the expected “buy something for the boys” check from grandparents soon I plan on letting them pick out a toy to buy and drop into the charity box at the Dollar General. Evan is getting old enough to understand giving and taking and needs verses wants.

This year I’ll be the mean mom who doesn’t buy her kids the over-priced, made in sweat shops, polluting crap that is sold as a must have item. Sure the kids might need therapy later to overcome the burden of having a mom who thinks about these things, but at least we won’t be so far in debt as to be unable to afford it.

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  • Erin says:

    Luckily my little guy is pretty low maintainance when it comes to Christmas gifts this year… And I’m pretty sure his godmother bought the entire east coast for him… but even if he wasnt I totally agree with you. I want Elijah to understand giving and that there are a lot less fortune children so he should never take what he has forgranted. Of course I have a few years to wait for this, but I feel that its one of the more important lessons I can pass on.

    I am also a big fan of handmade, with love, from the heart, personalized gifts. I make tons every year. I think most family/friends look forward to my handmade gifts and prefer them over the store bought stuff I give. I sewed everyone pillow and quilt sets the year before last. 300 hours behind the sewing machine all year was great to see everyone’s faces! As for handmade this year I made kitchen angels, ornaments, and a bunch of other stuff but the neatest idea came from another sweetheart of a Mama -Tonya at http://currentlycrafting.blogspot.com/ She has 2 year old twins and she is making them their own set of books. I loved this idea so much I am going to make my neice and Elijah their own sets. I am going to take pictures of their favorite objects and really personalize them. Visit her blog for the red book and blue book she has already finished.

    Anyway, Cheers to you for wanting to instill good morals and values to your children for christmas instead of going into debt with useless junk! ~erin

    Erin´s last blog post..A Month of Changes

  • Andrea says:

    I just realized I’m not getting my youngest any toys for Christmas OR her birthday. I don’t think she’ll miss it one bit. She’ll be 8 and she’s more into movies, plus she has a roomful of toys, half of which were given to her as hand-me-downs from her older siblings.

    We’ve tried really hard to focus on the giving aspect and not the getting, so our kids really look forward to seeing the looks on people faces when they open the presents *they* got them.

    And for us, we don’t buy a lot of stuff through the year, so the kids also expect to find “needs” under the tree like new socks and underwear, possibly boots and winter coats.

    Andrea´s last blog post..My blog forgot me

  • Lauren says:

    Oh, you are brave. I couldn’t do a toy free Christmas, but for a few years we weren’t celebrating at all because I was sick of all the stress that came with it.

    This year I’m trying to limit the mass produced, made in china stuff .. but, Barbie is still on the wishlist.

    I’m looking at magiccabin.com and etsy for most of our purchases.

  • Christine says:

    My kids all have a budgeted amount. It is very - very low. My two newest kids are having the hardest time. Their previous placement, where they were being abused, bought them every.thing. they wanted … and then hung it over their heads to not rat out the fact that they were being beaten.

    So, they don’t want the abuse back … but they are struggling with the fact that whining for something gets an immediate “no,” and that they truly have everything now that they will ever need.

    Hard habit to break.

    And going to grandparents’ homes won’t help - that will be insane.

    Christine´s last blog post..A Prayer for our RADishes

  • Renae says:

    Oh, it’s too late for us to join you. :(

    My son is getting a Lego set and my daughters are each getting a doll. Other than that, they are getting cassettes with history stories and the typical socks and underwear.

    I applaud you though! Going into debt for Christmas is something I don’t understand.

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  • Summer says:

    I’m so glad you all left positive comments. After the endless talk about Black Friday and weekend sales I was stating to worry that I was the only mom not spending a couple hundred bucks on their kids. Even if you don’t go completely toy free, just keeping the pile in check and not buying everything that goes on sale is a huge step forward.

  • jennifer says:

    And in 5years you will have a HOUSE perspective is important, Christmas is so much more than abundance of crapola.

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  • Awesome Mom says:

    I shudder to think of the toys my family is getting my kids. They only play with a fraction of the ones they have. I plan on getting them one small thing each and then donating the rest of the money I would have spent to a charity. I can’t really justify getting more stuff when there are so many needy people out there. Besides stuff is such a burden and weighs you down.

  • Scary Mommy says:

    Good for you– that’s really admirable! I’ve already caved and bought a few things, but am limiting the toys big time. I’m also donating a boatload of toys– that balances it a bit, right?! ;)
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  • kate says:

    Hi Summer,

    I just hopped over to your blog because of a comment you posted on Crunchy Domestic Goddess about the eco-felt. Thanks for that tip–I too buy a lot of felt, but haven’t ever seen the recycled version. I will look for that next time.

    We aren’t going toy-free this year, but the bulk of gifts we’ll be giving and opening are books, games, and handmade items. It’s the way to go!

    kate´s last blog post..Feliz Navidad

  • Donna B. says:

    I have four grandchildren and it’s hard not to buy them lots of toys, but I know it’s not what they really need. I generally shop Amazon for a week thoroughly indulging myself by putting everything into a wish list for each child.

    Then I send a link to my girls asking what they’d like their children to have. Are you surprised they veto most of it? This works well, I have the fun of “shopping” and the kids don’t get TOO spoiled.

    This year it’s coloring books, crayons, and play dough for the two oldest. The next oldest is getting a stroller for her dolls, the baby is getting a soft washable doll.

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  • Rose says:

    Well done!
    I admire your strength and think it’s a fantastic idea! As an 18 year old who grew up with a TV, PC and music player in her room, having recently been introduced to frugal/simple/eco living, it’s soooo hard to try and get rid of things I’ve been given for presents. I love the idea of living in a room with only books and art supplies but it’s so hard to get rid of things I’ve gotten used to. I only watch TV one hour a week (or none now I’m at University) but that one hour of watching the DVD or TV is important to me. Some things are useless; even broken but sentimental because their fromd eceased relatives or even things i have to keep which were given as presents so have to wear for the one visit those poeple make, even if the item is horrible! =)
    I’m hoping over the three years of university, with moving form dorms to a rented space I can start to declutter my room and give to charity shops/recycle what I can.

    If I ever have kids I think I want to give them like, a list of three things and they’ll either get 1, 2 or 3 of those, depending on price and usefulness ~ discuss with them why they want those things and check their mtoives aren’t “everyone has one”.
    But kids are a good 10-15 years away so I’ve time to plan.

    Oops, rambled - but anyway: I’m proud of your decision and i think it’s a fantastic idea. I applaud you.

    Stars Above,
    ~Celestial Rose.

    Rose´s last blog post..Self-Sufficiency

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